Tuesday, June 15, 2010

My big change

I have no pictures to post. I haven't even blogged for quite some time....over two years, I think. I have heavy thoughts right now. Its about a big change I made, and my most precious being in my life....my son.

I opened a daycare to spend more time with Daniel. I could do the raising and not another daycare. Over the past five years, I have always received great reports about Daniel's behavior. Who he plays well with, etc.

I have been shocked at his behavior. More importantly, I have been shocked at mine. I have been approaching his behavior with a combative attitude. He must be testing me. Yadda, yadda, yadda. I called my mom tonight for some advise. This is what she pointed out to me and suggested to me.

I have a little boy that is an only child. He has only ever had to play with his things, in his house, and take his time for everything. He has never had to share things in his house. Nor, his toys. I have not given Daniel any space to claim as his own. I have taken all of that away in the matter of a day.

So.....this is what I am going to do. Tonight, I will seperate all of his birthday and Christmas toys and give my boy his bedroom back. Full of his toys that he likes the best. When the kids get to be too much for him.....Daniel can have a retreat. When he doesn't want to share, he can go to his room and play with his things. If he wants to chill and just watch a movie alone, he can go to his room.

Share your opinion, please. :)

2 comments:

Lisha said...

I think you have a great solution. He's still at home and needs his own space. Maybe daycare toys can be stored in a special bin and his own toys in his room. That way he can distinguish between what has to be shared and what is just for him. I'm sure you'll navigate your way through this time of change. Glad to see you're back to your blog! I'll be checking in from time to time.

Andrea said...

I think this is a perfect idea. I have a friend who has a daycare and a son that is Ava's age. This is exactly what she does and it seems to work well for him.